
What is worth checking before you say yes
Families often ask us what matters most. In practice it comes down to six things, and four of them can be settled in under a week.


Families often ask us what matters most. In practice it comes down to six things, and four of them can be settled in under a week.

Online matchmaking made it easier to meet families, and easier for a few people to say things that are not true. Here is what tends to give them away.

A letter on company paper is easy to produce. What actually confirms a salary is the dull paperwork nobody thinks to ask for.

Every point is marked confirmed, not confirmed, or not found, and what we heard locally is kept separate from what we verified ourselves.

It is the question families most dread raising. It is also the one that most often changes a decision, so it is worth asking well.

A convincing certificate from a university that never awarded it. The registrar's office usually settles the question in a day or two.

We do not tap phones or open private accounts. A clear “we could not confirm this” is worth more to you than a soft answer.
If something in a proposal is not adding up, tell us what it is. We will say honestly whether it can be checked, and what it would take.
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